What happens when you shift from feeling frustrated to embracing “what is” and getting to a place of choice? I’m at O’Hare for the second time this week, for the same flight. The first one was canceled after I got here for a 7:00 a.m. flight, so you do the math about when I got up! We rebooked for this morning, same time. The flight was delayed until noon – after we got to the gate. At first, I defaulted to, “Really, you have got to be kidding me!” Their apology was a food voucher, so I got a mocha, with an extra shot!
I quickly shifted into embracing the free mocha rather than being frustrated that we were delayed by 2 days and 5 hours! I know it sounds ridiculous, but I decided in that moment to go with the flow rather than resisting what was happening. Besides it was a great metaphor to write about!
It goes back to the basics of “what is” from Living on Purpose – what is true and what choices do you have? Railing against “what is” is not productive. I know because I’ve done a fair amount of it in my life. In those moments of frustration; step back, breathe, evaluate (what is?), and choose.
You give yourself many more options when you shift into “What is true here and what choices do I have?” You have more power when you get to the place of choice. It can be difficult to make that shift, especially when things are really going wrong. However, the more quickly you get yourself to that space, the easier it will be to make a choice rather than feeling like a victim. In this instance, I could be angry and frustrated that we were delayed, yet again, or I could embrace the mocha.
This week notice when you are feeling frustrated or angry. It might be with a spouse, a client, an employee, or even yourself. If you recognized what is true, what choices would you have? How would that change things? Would recognizing that you have choices help you take action? My new rallying cry to help me remember choices is, “Embrace the mocha!”