Giver vs receiver, which one are you? Or, are you both? So many people are excellent givers, to the point of exhaustion. And, those same people often are unable to receive. As in other areas of life there is much to be said for balance between giving and receiving.
Often when we receive we feel vulnerable and that somehow we haven’t quite measured up because we couldn’t do it alone. Think about how you feel when you give to a friend, a family member, or a complete stranger. We often have a great sense of well-being and feel good that we could help someone else. Overwhelmingly, the one thing that people say to me is that they want to make a difference and that they want to help people.
When you don’t graciously receive from someone else you deny them that feeling of giving from their heart. Think about the gift you give them when you receive their generosity. That desire to give and have someone receive starts at a very early age. Think about the toddler who yanks a flower out of the ground and proudly gives it to his or her mom. Then think about the difference to that toddler if the mom receives it with a smile or scolds because you shouldn’t just yank flowers out of the ground any old place, especially if it isn’t in your own yard (look at that old judgment that just popped into your mind). Gracious receiving makes all the difference.
Let’s practice receiving this week – I will too! When someone offers to help you or gives you something, simply say “thank you.” Then notice how that feels. When we get our minds out of the way and relish the simple exchange and connection, it feels great.
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